A short reflection

The Story You Learned to Live By

And the one you get to write next.

We all carry beliefs we picked up long before we had words for them. A moment in the playground, something a parent said, a message we heard over and over. A young mind turns those moments into rules like “I must not be enough” or “I am not safe,” and those rules can quietly shape your relationship with food, money, love, work and yourself for decades.

This five-minute reflection helps you name the beliefs that may be running the show. It’s a naming exercise, not a blaming one. And if it can be learned, it can be unlearned.

So, let’s begin.

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Question one

Your result

What's likely running the show

Based on your answers, these are the beliefs doing the most work right now, ranked highest to lowest. All seven are shown in full below, not just your own.

Knowing is just the start An Invitation

You’ve exposed stories shaping your experiences and outcomes. Insight alone can’t create change. Real shift happens when you do the work with what you’ve uncovered.

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* Where this comes from: these seven patterns are checked against established psychological models, including cognitive behavioural therapy’s model of core beliefs, schema therapy, and patterns consistent with the DSM-5’s criteria for disordered eating, such as secretive or binge eating. This is a psychoeducational synthesis, not a diagnostic tool.

The Self Belief Workbook - Module I

I created The Story You Learned to Live By: The Self-Belief Module Workbook as a gentle guide to take you through the deeper work of challenging the stories that never belonged with you in the first place and rewriting the outcomes for the rest of your life.

Drawn from years of extensive research and practice, writing and working with people, this 86-page workbook takes you beyond simply living with a label and staying in the same place. Understand what sits beneath the pattern, challenge what you’ve come to believe about yourself, and begin to reshape the way you move forward.

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The workbook is $29 AUD.

If you feel you’d benefit from more personal support along the way, I also offer one-to-one coaching sessions.
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You’ve done the discovery, now it’s time to show up for yourself and do the work.

This is a self-reflection tool for general wellbeing and personal insight. It isn't a psychological diagnosis, a clinical assessment, or a substitute for professional mental health care. If any of this brings up more than you want to sit with on your own, a therapist, counsellor, or your GP is the right next step.